Meet Our Coaches

I am Jessica Stoya. I bring a wealth of sexuality knowledge—both practical and theoretical—to my coaching sessions. I offer tips and tricks gleaned from a 15 year career in adult entertainment, insights gathered over ten years as a sex and relationship advice columnist, and a vast reference set garnered through a lifetime of reading and learning about sex.

I offer weekly 50 minute coaching sessions over Zoom. While my coaching style is tailored to each individual client, I specialize in being a non-judgmental listener, providing education about expansive sexualities such as kink and polyamory, and taking the role of cheerleader to encourage celebration at every step of the journey from where you are to where you want to be.

I’m affirming of gender, orientation, kink, polyamory, asexuality, and of vanilla sex and monogamy. Our work will focus on providing thinking tools, education, and support as you work towards embodiment and expression of your authentic erotic self.

I am Rena Martine, a certified intimacy coach, former sex crimes Deputy District Attorney, TEDx speaker, and author of The Sex You Want. With nearly two decades of experience in sexual health, legal advocacy, and trauma-informed care, I guide individuals and couples toward creating authentic, fulfilling relationships. I've helped over 100 individuals through my signature Shameless coaching program, and am honored to collaborate with Best Self Psych to offer more accessible, tailored sessions for those seeking guidance without committing to an intensive coaching experience.

My approach blends neuroscience, trauma-informed care, and actionable steps (yes, homework!) to help you explore your desires, break through shame, and build lasting connections. Whether you’re exploring polyamory, rediscovering intimacy, or healing from trauma, I’ll be with you every step of the way to guide you toward a more shameless way of life.

You can read more about my background, media appearances, and coaching ethos on my website.

I am Pam Shaffer, the founder of Best Self Psych. I am a licensed MFT and coach as well as professional consultant for clinicians and organizations that want to learn more about working with neurodiverse individuals.

As a coach, I specialize in working with high achieving ADHD and combo platter AuDHD individuals. The people who get the most out of my coaching are often creative, ambitious, and outwardly professionally successful but struggle with burn out from "masking" their neurodivergence in their social and work life. They often report feeling depleted, unmotivated and lonely despite their accomplishments due to their ability to hide their neurodivergence with their outward markers of competence.

Our coaching work together focuses on creating a life that honors neurodivergence instead of hiding it and healing our relationship to ourselves which ultimately shifts our relationships with everyone around us, fostering better interpersonal connection and satisfying creative and professional endeavors.

My coaching work dovetails well with people who have been in therapy or desire to do so, as we have a wonderful team. I love collaborating to help my clients lead their best authentic lives and enjoy relationships that honor their neurospicy nature.

I am Tas Al-Ghul, and I am an ADHD Coach. I guide individuals in the process of identifying, organizing, and clarifying goals so that we can then create a customized concrete plan together in order to achieve said goals in a supported and manageable way.

With a decade-plus of experience in the field of mental healthcare, I utilize a trauma-informed strengths and empowerment based modality to ensure my clients feel affirmed and heard as we work together. I work with clients across the broad spectrum of races, ethnicities, cultures, abilities, identities, and orientations, including those who are BIPOC, LGBTQIA2S+, sex workers, and/or immigrants, as well as those participating in ENM/polyam and/or kink. I believe diversity, equity, inclusivity, and accessibility are crucial, and as such, the principles of anti-oppression are baked into my coaching style and have greatly influenced the multifaceted toolbox of resources I have curated over the years.

As a coach, my intention is to create and hold comfortable, judgment-free space for you that both honors and adapts to your particular needs regarding the aspects of ADHD you would like to shift in your life. It would be a tremendous privilege to serve as your guide in your journey.